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Beauty, brain, glamor, career, money…
Modern woman has got everything. That is, almost everything, except equality with men. She continues to be regarded as a second-rate human-being, a weakling and a play-thing. She still has miles to go before she can be what she is destined to be — A Free Woman.
FREEDOM — THY NAME IS WOMAN.. TRULY SO?
The status of women in modern India is a sort of paradox. If on one hand she is at the peak of ladder of success, on the other hand she is mutely suffering the hurdles created by her own family members. The pain and agony of being a woman is not limited to being ogled at, or being subjected to biases of all multiple varieties. Neither is it limited to the most-talked-about-&-abused God-gifted endowment plus genetic capability of giving birth to a child or being killed in the womb. It can be much more than that, albeit in seemingly little and less significant packages of pain.
With the today’s woman-of-substance insistence, the amount of stress the woman is undergoing and braving, is unparalleled. She has to cope with the home chores of a five-star hotel like house a la home-maker_food-baker, office blues, personality management, social circle, perfect etiquette, kids’ school stresses, husband’s jobs dramas.. what not? But that goes for a married woman. A single unmarried woman has much more to deal with, what with the bosses believing, she has nothing to do except prettily twiddle her thumbs at home, thus the question.. “What do you do at home? (Since) You are single (& seemingly not ready to mingle) hence, take it home! Take the files, the .ppt, the meeting, the backlog, the headache, the tension home..” And wham! the entire thing comes to U, headlong! Damn it! Darn that!
A working woman, rushing to catch her train, bus, metro, tram, whatever! Or if its her own vehicle, heaven help then! Be in charge of all the sundries at home as well as office.. no wonder women are bad drivers; they have so much up their sleeve that its difficult to maneuver the car you see!
And then, with that, she cannot fail! She isn’t just allowed to! Those days are over man! She ought to be an ultra smart chic chick who cannot fumble or falter. She is slim, fit and Miss Perfect. Has to be. No other alternative. So, thanks to the little number of perfect woman, the rest of the half world suffers. They wont get an off on those few blue days because the ads for sanitary napkins say “stay free” not “hands off” ! Go play, jump, dump yourself ! They insist and so do the doctors that its nothing like any pain. The only things that matter are cervical cancer, uterine tuberculosis or AIDS. Only that is pain. Those teeny-weeny-meany things called swellings, heart-aches (literally), head-spins, cysts and fibroids aren’t. I forgot to mention PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) & Retroverted Uterus. I think U should read this too:
Lisa Ray has Cancer
Model and Bollywood actress Lisa Ray has been diagnosed with multiple myeloma, a rare cancer of the plasma cells, and reportedly the disease is “incurable”. Quoting her:
“I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma on June 23. Started my first cycle of treatment July 2. Not long ago. For me, it was a relief to hear what was wrong,”
Explaining her disease, Lisa said: “Myeloma is incurable. It’s a relatively rare cancer of the bone marrow… Every year, approximately 2,100 more cases are diagnosed. I’m a junior member in many ways, having been diagnosed at 37, while the average age is 65… makes the disease not quite as ’sexy’ as other cancers.”
“The plasma cells in my bone marrow were rampaging, multiplying, squeezing out the red blood cells and it was time to begin doing something about it. I was also tired of being tired all the time. So when I sat there with Bobcat, my life partner and reservoir of Yellow, and got the news I didn’t react and I didn’t cry. I’m an actress, believe me, I can be dramatic. Not just then though!
(courtesy http://blog.karachiundernet.com/lisa-ray-has-cancer/)
The Pillar Of The Family
Multitasking ,deadlines, schedules absorbed in a swirl of activities at home and at one’s work place , the empowered woman of today —- the pillar of the family , can often damage ones own physical and mental well-being. GOOD NUTRITION and healthy lifestyle, a must for every woman, that can contribute significantly towards a woman’s healthy, are often overlooked in the hustle-bustle of an active life she is now expected to lead as ‘DE WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE!’
I know, all the happy successful women wouldn’t agree with me but for every such happy woman, there are scores of unhappy women who are struggling for survival in the shadow of their one such superwoman.
A woman’s rapid growth during adolescence, the demands of pregnancy and lactation can result in low levels of nutrients like iron, folic acid and calcium. In addition low energy diets, slimming regimes, eating disorders make women even more vulnerable to nutritional inadequacies.
“Beauty is the first present nature has given to women and the very first it takes away.” Yes, youthful, radiant skin, free of blemishes is a gift of nature, but due to the extreme exposure to sun, pollution, stress and bad dietary habits the glow is lost… And then we talk of over-expenditure on cosmetics!
Plus, FEELING TIRED, LETHARGIC, FATIGUED, becoming IRRITABLE and start COMPLAINING ABOUT GENERALISED ACHES AND PAINS— possible symptoms of LOW CALCIUM…. The diva might be dying!
Truly speaking, it is the woman who works the hardest in the family from morning till night.. dawn to twilight.. And what more, wherever the woman be, a village or a city, she is often working harder than the husband, contributing in not only longer hours but also more work, and such work that is supposedly man’s domain and only a man is capable of (the hard work) like ploughing the fields, using all the equipment used in the fields, carrying loads of water in deserts, construction labourer.. and so many such tasks. We are responsible for killing the women with too much stress.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjrypSSyStA
Quoting Avril aptly here:
I cannot find a way to describe it
It’s there inside
All I do is hide
I wish that it would just go away
What would you do
You do if you knew
What would you do
All the pain
I thought I knew
All the thoughts lead back to you
Back to what
Was never said
Back and forward
Inside my head
I can’t handle this confusion
I’m unable come and take me away
I feel like I’m all alone
All by myself I need to get around this
My words are cold
I don’t want them to hurt you
If I show you
I don’t think you’d understand
‘Cause no one understands
I’m going nowhere on and on and
I’m getting nowhere on and on and on
I’m going nowhere on and on and off and on and off and
Take me away
Break me away
Take me away
–Avril
And perhaps this says it all 😉 ~
The Better Option 😛 @ https://puplumages.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/the-better-option-p/
Neetish said:
nice,
though, since both my seniors at office are women, i like to believe they dont understand themale problems either .
“What do you do at home” always means, why do you need to leave office before 10 pm 😛
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Purvi said:
Neetish, that’s not a gender bias.. that bias is carried by the boss for the unmarried subordinate. Me & my unmarried colleagues face exactly the same, male or female. Being a female, it becomes more of a problem though. 😦
ThanQ for reading it so quick! Am glad U did 🙂
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hussain said:
”I want to fill the paper with the breathings of my heart, to be able to hear the inner music the words make”…I have always wondered why your words always touch the heart and soul. Now i understand the reason:p
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siddharth said:
hmmmm… i am in fr everything except the driving part… 😛
on a more serious note… as i said its about a mutual responsibility but alas we do live in a hypocritic society and this what irks me and i have often lashed out on women … for doing that to themselves i.e their future generations. women have also been the greatest oppresors of another woman. The hypocrisy is aptly covered in a dialogue i heard in a hindi movie which went .. ” agar ladka kare to log kehte hain, ghar se bahar thooka hai… agar ladki kare to log kehte hain ghar ke andar thooka hai ..” with this … I rest my case.
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Jingle said:
awesome view about women,,
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Jingle said:
dear friend,
I have your award posted,
please pick 3 or 4 from my post and share each with 1 to 5 friends…
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Olivia said:
Hey Purvi- this ones for you.. wishing you a great Monday..
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Olivia said:
Reading through your post, I agree with the essence. I too write about women in a different Blog though. You could search by saying Women..
http://readolivia.wordpress.com/
Are only a few such links.. I too believe that GE is only a bullsh*t. A fancy word to harp upon; without any meaning or significance. I wish things change- soon enough
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Olivia said:
Hey Purvi, appreciating your post, I posted a comment. With the amount of links, it must have gone to your Spam straightaway..
😀
very lovely writing- I feel good reading what you write.
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Olivia said:
Hi Purvi,
It’s been long… :). So here I come again-
http://oliviasbiopiclog.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/band-wagon-fun…ng-with-jingle/
This is for you: http://oliviasbiopiclog.files.wordpress.com/2010/09/the-thankyou-award-e1283854837105.jpg
Happy Tuesday
Loads of Love
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Jingle said:
I hope all is well….
your friendship is very precious,
your involvement is highly valued and respected…
Happy Thursday!
Welcome to our community any time.
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Purvi said:
Both me & my computer have just not been keeping well :D, hoping to be back soon :))
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Jingle said:
simply link in if you wish to join us,
u r missed indeed.
love your sweet nature and beautiful acts…
🙂
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Jamie Dedes said:
There is so much here I hardly know where to start. A lot of good points … a lot of injustices. One thing that the first piece made me think of is this U.S. ad from the 80s:
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網路行銷 said:
The layout of the weblog is absolutely messed up when I look at it in Opera. Plz fix it.
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megzone said:
yes i read about it.. it was in the papers too sometime back…
i loved your write up Purvi 🙂
M here from Jingle’s Rally.
you can read my Rally Poem at
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Olivia said:
Here- A very Lovely Sunday-
Love
Olivia
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Jingle said:
The Dead Line to Vote is Sunday or today,
u r nominated, u win 1 vote automatically,
if you vote for other bloggers, u win another vote…
have fun!
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Trisha said:
being a “good” indian woman is a herculean task. 🙂
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Jingle said:
lovely topic touched.
Thanks..
A++
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fiveloaf said:
alot to read- so little time.. thank you for sharing this.. my potluck- http://fiveloaf.wordpress.com/2011/03/08/nectar-from-heaven/
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Pratibha said:
So agreeable. Women are not sex dependent on charity. Women if given proper resources can contribute a lot to the society. BUT, they should be given the understanding that they have their limitations, just like men so like to proudly announce theirs like an achievement!
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